Sexual Role Play
Many couples also use this method to act out a fantasy. Firemen
may have always revved you up, but your husband is a banker. Your
wife may be a secretary, but will be able to knock your socks off
in your fantasy as a French tourist. It's a healthy, safe way to
spice up your relationship - like sleeping with someone else, while
not cheating on your spouse. Even if mechanically the sex is the
same as always, it will seem much more exciting to pretend that
you are a heroic man coming to the aid of your damsel in distress
and have her fall for you.
As previously stated, the game can be carried out in various degrees.
It doesn't take anything other than mental effort to pretend, but
it takes a lot more thought and planning to dream up a costume and
then buy or make it. Some couples actually go to the trouble of
traveling to another geographical location in order to properly
act out their ideal fantasy. Your only limit is your creativity.
Some commonly used ideas for role-playing fantasies include:
- the hero saving the girl
- the stripper and the smitten man
- pretending to be strangers having wild sex
- the sex kitten seducing her mouse
- the hot stud mesmerizing the awestruck innocent girl
- the pretend rape scene
- the King/Queen and their servant
- the master/slave scenario
- various movie stars or rock stars and their devoted fan
- famous politicians, CEO's or people of power and their loyal
- scenes and characters from various movies or plays
- favorite athlete and the victory euphoria
- casual acquaintances of people you are attracted to
- acquaintances that you don't like that you think would be okay
if only they had some good, uninhibited sex!
If you haven't tried out any of these ideas, it's never too late.
Some people are embarrassed by the notion, or feel silly, but if
you let go a little bit, your fears will be overcome by excitement
and pleasure. Perhaps have a couple of drinks if you feel the need
to loosen up a little! If you and your partner are a little uncomfortable
with the idea at first, start small. For example, begin by talking
to each other about what fantasies you have or by talking about
a scene in a movie that really turned you on. Once you feel comfortable
discussing what you may find titillating, it will feel more natural
to pretend to be in that scene or to carry out the idea. It doesn't
have to be vulgar or crude, it may equally be gentle and romantic.
An easy scenario to try out role-playing with is to pretend that
it's your first time having sex with each other again.
Let's accept it, if we are going to be committed to monogamy, and
look at the same face on the pillow every morning for upwards of
50 years, some effort is going to be involved. You don't just stay
attracted to one person for that long without working at it. One
of the best ways to prevent your sex life from becoming stale is
via role-play. The bonus is that the list of possibilities is endless,
and we can change personalities as we tire of them and fall in love
with each other over and over again.