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Infidelity
Chapter 3
Regardless of biology, faithfulness to your partner is set in high
regard in our society. There are many ways that we can play an active
role in keeping our spouses from straying. For starters, try spicing
up your sex life. You can do this by trying new positions, using
sex toys or dressing up in sexy clothes. Often children can put
a damper on sexual activity. Get a sitter and spend some time alone
to rekindle the fire. Do something juvenile such as having sex in
your car instead of in your bed. Remember, many people cheat for
the excitement of it, so be imaginative and dream up some way to
give your partner a real thrill.
As previously mentioned, women often cheat because of emotional
frustration and dissatisfaction with their partner. This is simply
a communication breakdown within the marriage and major efforts
should be made by both partners to practice effective communication
skills. Talk to your spouse about what is bothering you, tell them
your most intimate goals and desires. Also worth mentioning is the
fact that many couples that have been together for any length of
time begin to take each other for granted both in and out of the
bedroom. Go out together and have some fun, and take the time to
remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Whether fidelity is biologically natural is not as relevant as
whether you feel it is important. It is always best to tell your
partner how you feel, and make some sort of agreement on the issue.
If you have ever cheated on your spouse, keep in mind that sexually
transmitted diseases like AIDS are very real dangers, that their
contraction happens to ordinary people, and can potentially ruin
your life. If you find out that your spouse is cheating on you,
keep in mind that no matter how awful you feel about it, it is very
common and that most marriages survive it. If you work on keeping
the lines of communication open and the sex interesting, you may
remain in the minority of marriages where fidelity is possible.
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